The Twenties. Your Relationship vs The Internet.

In your twenties lovers will come in and out of your life very much like a revolving door. Some are mere flings others turn into serious relationships. People say when you're in love and can be completely open and honest with your partner then you're relationship can withstand the test of time. Clearly this person was not around for the epidemic that is social networking websites. It is terrific for keeping up with friends, family and colleagues. But what happens when you start dating someone new and you both happen to be on the same social networking sites. Do you look at that persons page more than you should? Are you looking for something to affirm that your partner is faithful? When did these harmless sites become the ultimate spy tool for people in relationships? Some might say if he or she is faithful and not doing anything then I don't see the harm in checking out their page once or twice a day. Why is this necessary? Some of us don't even brush our teeth twice a day so why do we make it a point to "spy" on our partner twice a day. If we are happy with the person we are with, and I mean truly happy, then why are we looking for something that can be the detriment of our relationship? It seems that we all secretly have trust issues and social networking sites only confirms this.
I received a text from an ex colleague, Alanna, who I have remained friends with over the past three years. She's a 26 year old financial account manager, incredibly beautiful, has a masters degree in business and makes a impressive salary for any 26 year old. When it comes to relationships she always has a difficult time trusting men and it's always short lived due to her trust issues. I regret introducing Alanna to Twitter because she is now a social networking stalker and her boyfriend of only 8 weeks is the victim. Instead of doing work at work she has become consumed with checking out the profiles of her boyfriends female friends looking for any sign of flirting. I knew it was getting out of hand when she text me at 9:30am "OMG why did she send him a smiley face and he sent her a wink back"! Let's just say two weeks later the relationship was no more and the smiley face and wink was completely harmless. If she would of did further research she would of found out the girl was pregnant and engaged to her long time boyfriend of four years.
Speaking to several friends social networking spying on a partner is more common than I thought. Is there a way to stop this? Are all relationships doomed because of our constant over thinking and over analyzing? I know some of you are thinking well how else are we suppose to find out if our lover is cheating. I don't want to look like a fool in the end because he or she was cheating. We need to stop, take a deep breathe and learn how to trust a little more. If you feel the constant need to check up on your partner because you think he or she is cheating then just maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. The problem is not them, it's you. Your trust issues will be the down fall of your relationship. The best piece of advice that anyone ever gave to me when it comes to a relationship is "whatever is done in the dark will come to light". You can't go looking for things to deteriorate your relationship. Sometimes you just have to let things play out. What I do know is that we do all of this to prevent having our hearts broken. I am sorry to be the one to inform you that heart break is inevitable. It's almost as certain as death.