The Twenties. Forgiveness.

Why is it so hard to forgive in a relationship? Is it because we never really forget what the person did we just excuse it? For instance, let's say I had a 2009 BMW that my friend ask to borrow for a couple of hours. When she returns with the car there's a fresh scratch on the hood of the car. She's apologetic, of course, but she's insane if she thinks I'll ever give her my car keys again in the near future. So how do we apply this to a relationship. Your partner cheated. How do you move forward? You forgive him and he's never allowed to talk to another female? That's unfair because despite what you may think he's not your property. Many view cheating as something that's unforgettable and their absolutely right. How do you forgive the unforgettable?
I think many of us need to take a step back and really examine what forgiveness means. To forgive is to pardon any wrong doing and to renounce any anger that you may have. When you ask someone to forgive you to many of us expect to be forgiven in the blink of an eye just because you apologize and ask for forgiveness. Yes, we have the ability to forgive you but it doesn't happen over night. Forgiveness takes time as do many other things, i.e rebuilding trust like I spoke about earlier. It takes time to let that anger go to truly forgive someone. It's so hard to forgive in a relationship nowadays because everyone forgot what it means to forgive. Our partner ask us to forgive them and we blindly say yes and block it from our mind as it never happened. Well it did happen. Blocking it from our mind does nothing but make you look oblivious to what really happened. You can't just decide to block something out. That's silly and it doesn't make much sense. You can decide whether or not your willing to take the time out and forgive someone but forgiveness actually comes much later. Now, if your the one that did the wrong doing please don't expect to be forgiven overnight. We also need to learn how to word things more carefully. If your partner admits something to you and you really don't forgive them, don't tell them that you forgive them. The appropriate response should be I am willing to forgive you but it will take some time. Let's stop blocking out all the bad things that happens in a relationship. Let's take the time out and really learn how to forgive.