The Twenties. Stop Complaining About Your Beau.

Do we get in our own way when it comes to making love grow?
I notice females tend to complain a lot when it comes to their significant other, usually in conversations among their friends. I lost count with how many times my girlfriends and I sit and bitch about our boyfriends. One day, while I was out with a few friends, I listened and sometimes, sorry ladies, we complain for no reason.
Do we sometimes complain just to complain?
For instance, my friend was annoyed she would only speak to her boyfriend once or twice a day. In her previous relationship she spoke to her boyfriend at least every two hours. I told her that her previous relationship should not set the standards for this relationship. Every single relationship is different. Of course she continued saying that it bothered her because she didn't know what he was doing all day. That even if he was busy he could find a minute to text her or call her just to say hello. Ultimately, it made her feel like he might be cheating.
Ladies, did you ever notice we are so quick to think negatively?
In all honesty, there's always a possibility your partner could be cheating. But, why is that the first thing we assume? So of course when her boyfriend finally called her later that night she started questioning him like he committed a crime. To make a long story short, he later told her that she was selfish, spoiled and inconsiderate. He sometimes worked 16 hour days and could not believe she was upset because sometimes he can't find a minute in the day to even eat. He ended things with her and she was devastated. She didn't understand why and felt that he should of understood how much she loved him. All she wanted to do was talk to him more.
When will we realize that our beau is not obligated to do anything? They are not obligated to call us every two hours, text us every hour or even see use every day. If you are both in love why can't that be enough? We can't keep throwing accusations and complaining about what our partner is not doing. Be happy that someone out there is in love with you. We can be so selfish, inconsiderate and spoiled without ever realizing what we are doing. If it really bothers you that much lightly bring it up in conversation. Stop attacking your partner with everything that bothers you. We always go into attack mode when we are upset. STOP IT! Take a breath, think about what's bothering you and communicate.