The Twenties. An Ex Does Not Equal A Best Friend.

An ex should never become your best friend unless he/she is gay. Period. The only reason a person allows an ex to become their best friend is because he or she still has feelings for that person. Some one is going to get hurt eventually. By saying this person, whom you are still in love with, is now your best friend is as ridiculous as it sounds. You mind as well announce out loud, "Yes, I'm still in love with this person but they don't want to be with me. But he did give me the we can be best friends speech and I was stupid enough to listen". Usually us females fall victim to this and let me explain how. We begin dating a guy and we become head-over-heels in love. Then one day he pretty much says something along the lines of this; "It's me not you. I still love you. But I want us to be the best of friends." This is usually a trick. What he says sounds genuine but he's masking what he really wants to say. All we hear is that he still loves us. Then some how we come to the conclusion that it's the wrong timing and he will have some sort of epiphany and realize we are the one for him. Now, I'm not saying this isn't a possibility but 9 out of 10 times this will not happen. So it begins, you begin to play the best friend role. After a few weeks you think things are going great as friends and you begin to think that this new found friendship will somehow manifest into the perfect relationship. Now let's be honest. How many of us has broken up with our boyfriend but didn't stop sleeping with him? Well there's no difference here. So here you are weeks later having the best conversations, getting along perfectly, having great sex and you couldn't be happier. Until he tells you or you find out that he's seeing other people. Now what? There's nothing worse then being heartbroken over a guy then getting you hopes back up about the same guy to only be crushed. What we don't realize is he knew exactly what he was doing the entire time. He knows that you are still in love with him but that won't stop him from sleeping with you. There's a reason he's no longer your boyfriend.Right now, he has it made. He still has you, minus the title and gets to be with other girls. What guy doesn't want that? A guy will only do what we allow him to do to us. If he doesn't want to be with you, move on. Sometimes a guy has to lose us completely to realize what he had. He's not really losing us if we pretend to be their best friend. You don't need to pay a psychologist thousands of dollars to figure that one out. I guess we sometimes forget common sense can take us a long way.